BoHome: Mama Wisdom
We connected with San Diego mama Dori Varga, creator of global sisterhood TRIBE de MAMA and chatted about her loving approach to motherhood.
On being a mother
My greatest fears in life were always two things :: Giving birth to a child, and being incapable of finding my true calling. Not in my wildest dreams have I thought that overcoming fear and embracing the magic of birth would allow me to connect to that me who knows what she came here to do in this world.
Of course I know I got lucky with my man who is one of my greatest inspirations, and who has created this incredible life in California where all I had to do is jump in for the ride.
But to be honest, I believe that every feminine soul who entered the world through the womb is a Mother.
We were formed after the greatest nurturer, teacher, and healer: Mother Earth. Every daughter of hers is a Mother, should she be nurturing our culture, or creating it. Should she be growing a human being in this world, or growing a seed so there could even be a world to live in. Our work as Mothers is very complex and profound. Our relationships with each other are the essence of our community. The quality of our sisterhood is what defines our vibration, which affects the future of our global society. As Mothers we must acknowledge and own our power, our strength, our importance. Our wisdom lies within our courage to come from a place of love and the ultimate wisdom :: intuition. As Mothers, as Women, in the sisterhood of unity and acceptance, we create the future.
On the things I love about Motherhood
Giggles in the morning and a big slap in my face before I open my eyes. Never ending goof-parades at home, in the park, on the beach, in line for coffee. The sense of stillness while we unpack our grocery bags, while we cook, while we read, while we cuddle. The appreciation of me-time during afternoon naps, like spending time with myself has never existed before.
On the challenges of Motherhood
The forever balance of a working mother at home. The patience game it requires every-single-day. The naps that are being skipped. The continuous physical contact with another human that isn't my lover. The affect it has on my relationship with my lover. The realization of my kid being a mirror of myself. The facing of myself everyday reading his reactions to my actions. But the stinky poop. That's the worst! Ha!
On TRIBE de MAMA
This global community of Women has grown into a real thing in just a year and a half. I am excited to see where it will be in 30 years. Besides our social media empowerment, we are actively involved with global community building, as well as fundraising for different areas and women and children in need. Although we are an organization with different branches, they all focus on empowering, educating, and supporting women. Our main platform is currently the magazine. We are working on establishing our very own publication. Our next issue in June will also be available in print. The magazine has come a long way. It started out as a sweet mommy blog, yet now with this volume we are tuning into our deepest creative space, our WOMB and bringing a truly artistic approach to what it means to be a spiritually driven woman. We are now speaking to the women of the world, honoring all of their journeys, celebrating our diversity, while exploring the cultures of the planet.
Mama and Son: Dori Varga and Noah Jackson